Pin-up of "Goth Ghost Girl", a character created by John Schlim at Fablewood Studios, this drawing was the back cover of a pin-up collection book with various artists doing their take on the ethereal gothic chick.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to belong; sharing with others is an important part of how humans live together. But you are right; conformity, where people just act the same so they don't have to think for themselves, SUCKS! And it really BAD. It's an easy out, where going your own way, making yourself stand out as an individual, takes more work and brain-power. Conformity is easy, because you don't HAVE to think about it, you just fall into line and become a drone.
The extra effort to define yourself as an individual IS worth it; might not seem that way now, but it does pay off, just be patient.